abulia

\uh-BOO-lee-uh; uh-BYOO-\, noun:
Loss or impairment of the ability to act or to make decisions.

--Ahh yes, the spit or swallow issue. Sounds like you were suffering from what is known as "blowjob abulia."
--After being given the choices of "Your mother, your sister, and your grandma" while playing "Do, Marry, or Kill," Martin was spun into an abulia from which he could never recover.